Okay, so this may hurt a little. It’s my blog cherry being popped after all. I just hope, the only thing hurt is my head as I try to come up with something witty to say and not your eyes when you read said witty blog.
Anyway, so when Lex and I talked about setting up this blog, it got me thinking. Is flirting a lost–or soon to be extinct–art? It seems every day, fewer and fewer people, especially those of the younger generations, devote their time to flirt with the object of their lust. Or maybe I hang out with the wrong kind of crowd.
But I can’t help but notice that flirting–good, witty, I-wanna-cream-my-panties flirting–can nowadays mainly be found in movies and books. “Hey do you want to dance?” and “Hey, can I have your phone number?” don’t count. Is it because there’s no thrill anymore? No anticipation for the first kiss, the fist date, the first time you have sex…I dunno. Everything has become so easy that maybe people have stopped trying to impress the opposite (or same) sex. Women and men just lay it out there and if the other person doesn’t bite, hell, the next one will. Why go to the trouble of finding something clever and sexy to say?
Yes, some people are innately flirtatious, but they don’t count. It’s in their blood, they don’t strive for it.
That’s why when I come across someone who knows what he’s talking about–whether he’s a fictitious character or a flesh and blood person–I can’t help but be dazzled by his comebacks. I admit it, if I were a Southerne belle, I’d swoon.
So what do you think? Is flirting really out or do I just live in the wrong country?
March 20th, 2009 at 12:43 pm
Lisa,
Maybe you do live in the wrong country (not that I haven’t told you that before!), or maybe it’s just that my hubby and I are shameless flirts. We flirt with everyone, so around our house, or wherever we go, flirting is definitely still in!
Kristin
March 20th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
Well, I haven’t seen you in action, Miss Daniels, so I can’t say if you’re good at flirting, now can I? :p
March 20th, 2009 at 10:06 pm
It’s becoming a fast food world. Men drive up to your house, you lower your panties and two or three orgasms later they drive away. Flirting has become something you do with friends rather than someone whose undergarments you want access to. Still, I’m a inveterate flirt online and I’m outspoken about my sexual past and habits so people automatically think I’m some sexpot. Maybe between my ears or in the safe haven of my own bed, but in truth I’m a little shy and it’s not until I hit my comfort zone with people that I get flirty in person.
I don’t think it’s a lost art. I think people know it and do it. I just think they aren’t doing it to get laid anymore.
Lex’s last blog post..Release Day!
March 21st, 2009 at 5:52 am
I agree with Lex on this one, it is usually just flirting with someone you are friends with. I chat and flirt with just about anyone, but when it comes to someone that I really like, I get all tongue tied and nervous and have no idea what to say. Once I get to know someone better, I do better. But usually by then I know if they would be interested in the dirty or if they are just a friend that it is fun to goof with. (I do so notice there is a reason that Lex and I get along so well lmao) It is fun to flirt just for the sake of flirting. It is just that people are so afraid of being taken wrong anymore. In a world where you have to worry about being politically correct, people have lost the freedom to just be themselves.
March 21st, 2009 at 8:15 am
Dear Lord, I hope it’s not going to be a lost art. Well said, Lisa and great insight Dianna.
March 21st, 2009 at 10:13 am
Well, I think we’re doing the world a great service then, and should be named Ambassadors of Flirting. Why should Angelina get all the limelight?
March 22nd, 2009 at 7:21 pm
A nice banter will get me on my knees faster that a nice set of abs.
March 25th, 2009 at 4:28 am
LMAO Good to know, Ethan. I’m storing it away for future use.